Writing your own vows might seem like a great idea after you’ve watched too many romantic comedies and drank the better part of a bottle of Pinot Grigio. In reality, though, it gets super difficult to figure out what you’re going to say when you’re standing at the altar in front of everyone you know. You want the words to be right and the moment to be special, meaningful and totally real.
When you start thinking of the number of eyes turned your way you can’t help but wonder how many of them are going to hold your words up to the Most Romantic Vows of All Time and find out you don’t measure up. That’s the stressful feeling that comes with the pressure of writing your own vows, but it doesn’t need to be that way.
First of all, ask yourself this:
Why Are You Writing Your Own Vows?
- Is it because the two of you aren’t very religious and to follow a script that is more aligned with a religious ceremony seems wrong?
- Is it because you don’t think the same vows that everyone else says feels true to your personalities?
- Is it because you want to make every part of this special day as personal as possible?
All of these reasons are totally valid – you’re not out of line or wrong for wanting to write something personal and genuine to say as you commit your life to the person you love. But actually writing the wedding vow seems like torture if you’re not a natural writer!
There’s no need to panic, we’ve made these awesome fill-in-the-blank Wedding Vow Worksheets exactly for that reason. You may not end up using any of these exactly as they are, but it’s a great way to get started. Once you’ve got all or just one of them filled out, read them out loud and see if they feel natural. Mix and match sentences and phrases until you find the right words to say how you really feel.
Just try not to leave this until the day before the wedding!
Here’s the first Wedding Vow Worksheet: